Cancer is a crazy subject to talk about. You do not just bring it up with anyone. My girlfriend, Jeng’s family has been dealing with cancer. After I met her, I decided to be sensitive when the subject of cancer came up. When someone has a family member dealing with cancer, illness is a sensitive subject. People make jokes or references about cancer and I used to be more open to them. Now that my father has been diagnosed with cancer I didn’t know what to do. I chose to just keep quiet and deal with it.
I thought about telling my friends or even my girlfriend but I chose not to because I believe there will be a right time. It’s not something you just bring up randomly.
My mom already told her whole house about my dad’s situation. Auntie Yoly, Uncle Mulong, and Mamang know about my dad’s illness. I was angry when I found out she told them. Why would you tell them something so personal? My dad said it didn’t matter though. He had already accepted the fact that they would find out eventually. He lost a lot of weight and the way he behaves had already given it away. Now that so many people know, this information is going to spread…like a cancer so to speak…(I hate these references. I hate that I used one. I hate a lot of things.)
I don’t want to tell anyone. I don’t want them to feel sorry for my dad. I don’t want them to feel sorry for me. I don’t need your sympathy.